While eating her vanilla yogurt, Queen Teen stared at her bowl for a long time, then she said, "If yogurt is white, and ice cream is white, and mashed potatoes is white, how do you know which one it is?"
I laughed. I couldn't help it. It was such a surreal question, so I assumed she was joking. But she looked at me so studiously I suddenly realized she was serious. Ooops.
"Um... well... you can smell them," I said.
She sniffed her yogurt. "Smells like yogurt."
"Exactly. If we had any ice cream you could smell that and see how it's different."
Nodding, she kept looking at me as if waiting for me to go on.
"And if we had any mashed potatoes, you could smell those and see how they're different from yogurt and ice cream."
"But what if you can't smell them?"
"Um... you can taste them. Also, mashed potatoes are usually hot and ice cream is usually cold. And yogurt is cold too, but not as cold as ice cream."
She took another bite of yogurt and then looked at me again, waiting.
"And you store them differently. Ice cream is in the freezer, yogurt is in the fridge and mashed potatoes are cooked on the stove." There. I had explained it from every angle. Now she would understand.
She nodded again and took another bite, her eyes looking dreamy as she gazed off into the distance, pondering my explanation.
How did she not know this? I mean, really... isn't the difference between ice cream, yogurt and mashed potatoes obvious?
Not when you're visually impaired.
This was another reminder of how much of the details in life Queen Teen misses. Everything she knows, she's had to be
shown, through explanation, contact, and hands-on experience. There is very little incidental learning when you can't see clearly, and it gets even harder when your hearing is poor as well. You can't sit in your chair and watch Mommy cook dinner, you need to be beside Mommy going through the steps of a meal preparation with her.
Sometimes I think I've got this mommy-gig nailed, then other times I realize how much I've assumed she understands and didn't take the time to show her. What else has she missed?