Saturday, October 9, 2010


After observing Queen Teen in class at the high school, I discovered one very important fact: Queen Teen is popular with the boys. They watch her walk by with curiosity and a little bit of longing in their eyes. They have stammering conversations with her that involve them asking questions and then staring at their feet while they wait for her to reply, which she usually doesn't do. They look for her in the cafeteria and then maneuver for the closest spot beside her, but not too close because they don't want to crowd her (she hates that). Primarily, I'm talking about the boys in her SDC program, but I also saw some of the boys in the general campus population secretly checking her out, and it wasn't just because she was in a wheelchair.

Queen Teen is beautiful. It's not just me saying that, either. She has dark hair and dark blue eyes, pale cream skin and naturally red lips, long limbs and a smile that can turn a teen-aged boy to jello. And although she is still a little shy and has a hard time hearing when the boys are talking to her, I've watched her slowly become aware of the power she has over the opposite sex. She smiles shyly and actually bats her eyes. I'm not sure she really understands what's going on, though. She simply seems to enjoy learning to flirt.

There is a boy at school who hunts for her in the cafeteria every day and then glows with pleasure when he gets to push her in her wheelchair. Sometimes she lets him, sometimes she doesn't. It's always her call, and I think he lives for the moments she turns to him and says with a smile, "You can push my chair." Another boy asks her every day if she'll come to the gym to watch him shoot hoops. She rarely does, but on those few occasions when she does appear, he practically does cart wheels, he's so excited.

And now I have the task of trying to decide how much I need to explain to her about what all this male attention means. She still seems a bit oblivious. To her, boys are "silly," and the ones who give her extra attention are even "sillier." How much does she understand about flirting and relationships? I've been waiting forever for her to ask me questions about boys and sex and where babies come from, but she never has. It looks like I need to start asking her the questions.

It's fun watching her blossom and begin to flex her flirting muscles. She's stunning. Gorgeous.

In fact, I'd better go get a shot gun and a chastity belt. Or I wonder if there's a nunnery I can send her to?


Confessions of a Closet Hoarder but you can call me Judy said...

She is absolutely gorgeous, and it's no wonder the boys are fawning all over her. As a parent of a beautiful little girl it is a bit disconcerting, though, isn't it? :

I'm sure you'll figure out whether or not to wait or which questions to ask, if you decide to act soon. Hope it all goes well! :)

Mother of Chaos said...

ACKKKKKKK!!!!!!! She is such a beautiful, beautiful girl. Can't we convince her that boys are stinky for a few more years?! (Oh gads, my word verification is 'uphil'...yeah, that's the kind of battle it is, too...)

Rick said...

i have been telling her for years that she cant hold a boys hand till she is 35. she hits me and calls me silly. where is that iron chastity belt i ordered?

Terry said...

Anytime you need a Bear to hang around and keep an eye on things, I'm available. LOL
I think this is good for her, to know that others think she is as special and beautiful as we do. At some point, all that other stuff will have to be dwelt with,but not just yet.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Good luck with the situation. The teens are such tough years.



leah said...

Well, she's definitely right about one thing: Boys ARE silly! :-)

I have a feeling that chastity belts are hard to come by these days, lol.

Laura said...

You do have a beautiful daughter, so go ahead and brag.

I didn't see an email or a way to contact you, but I'm studying to be a special education teacher & I'm doing a research paper on peer pressure & the exceptional child & wanted to actually talk (email) parents with disabled teens who are included in the regular classroom to see if they experience some of the same pressures as other teens, you know the drinking, smoking, drugs, sex, etc.

I would love to ask you some of these questions (no names used of course) to find out your feelings & how you deal with these issues.